Living your dream can mean different things to different people. What might be a dream life to some people could be a nightmare to others. And this works perfectly. After all it wouldn’t work so well if we ALL wanted to be the President! So don’t be afraid to have a dream that is totally unique and individual to you! So many people feel stuck and unable to live their dream life, instead feeling trapped in the daily grind. Many people who talk of feeling trapped mention ‘the rat race’ and this brings to mind stressful city jobs and a fast paced life, however people can feel stuck in any situation, if it is not in alignment to who you really are.
Discontentment is something that can affect us all, even those who ARE on their path, and doesn’t always mean a life change is in order. Sometimes it may just mean that you need to examine your attitude and point of view about life and what is happening in the moment. Check to see whether you are living in gratitude, and touch in with yourself about where your needs are, and whether you are successfully fulfilling them. Sometimes we are not challenging ourselves enough. Perhaps we have a genuine need for excitement, or romance. These can be taken care of.
However if you are really unhappy in your life, or you KNOW that you are not living your dream, or even if you have an inkling that you could be doing something that would suit you better and you feel that you want and need to BE more, then this article is for you.
Here are 10 steps to help you easily create the life of your dreams.
1. Know Your Dream
This may sound obvious, however many people don’t have a clear picture of their dream. Often people have a vague idea of what they would like to do in their life, however they don’t really ‘KNOW’ their dream. It’s more of a hazy daydream, rather than a clear picture that with intention, motivation and practical/Inspired action, can be created and brought into existence.
2. Define it and make the picture really clear in your mind
In order for you to start using visualization to bring your dream into reality you need a crystal clear picture of it in your mind. Think HD clear! Don’t be afraid to dream BIG. Evidence shows that imagining your dream, down to the smallest details, can help you gravitate towards it. Remember the Law of Attraction states that what we focus on grows. Make your vision of your dream life so clear you can almost smell it! Creating a VIBE Board is extremely useful and we highly recommend doing that.
3. Use the power of INTENTION to help create what you want
Once you have your picture clear in your mind you can use visualization techniques each day to help create it in your life. This simply involves concentrating on this dream each day for a period of time, letting yourself live it in your mind as you would like it to be. Feeling how it would feel. The power of our minds is awesome and when we focus with intent a lot can be achieved. Visualization is a technique used by successful people all over the world, for example Success Coach Tony Robbins, and athlete Lindford Christy. Some people do this as part of their meditation, however if meditation isn’t your thing you can just dedicate a segment of time each day to this technique. Right before you go to sleep is a good time, or when you have just woken up. It doesn’t have to be a long time either. 5 minutes each day is fine if you are pressed for time.
Once you have started using your mind to get your universe into alignment and help create the life your dreams, then you also need to take some practical steps to make it happen. When you know what your dream life is it will be easier for you to prioritize and begin the process of making sure that everything you do on a daily basis is in alignment with what you are trying to achieve. Some people would call this being on your path and taking INSPIRED actions.
5. Get rid of anything that is not in alignment to this dream
This includes the things you are doing on a daily basis, daily actions and behaviors. If they do not serve you, and especially serve you in getting you to where you want to be in your life, seriously consider changing them. Time is precious so use it wisely. Of course keep some fun and relaxation time in the mix for balance, and family and true friends are also important. However if you are spending lots of time and money in the pub for example, and this is not helping you in any way towards your dream, this is the type of behavior you may want to look at. Get rid of excess stuff too (sell or gift everything you don’t REALLY need). Stuff weighs us down and holds us back. You will be surprised how little you really need when you are happy, and also how little you will miss those material things that we sometimes attach ourselves to!
6. Accept support to realize your dream
Sometimes we miss support when it is offered, or we are too proud to accept. People can help and support you to achieve your dream and often they are even happy to do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. As long as you don’t go in with expectations or an attitude that you are ‘owed’ something, often when we get clear on what we want things will fall into place to support us. This doesn’t always happen, however when someone does offer to support us we can comfortably take them up on it. This is the POWER of community!
7. Be willing to make some sacrifices
Often once we have worked out what it is we want from life we have to sacrifice some of the other things (see getting rid of stuff section above). There may be things you have to sacrifice in the short term in order to get where you want to be in the long term. As long as you are still enjoying your day to day life, this will be worth it in the long run. Keep your dream clearly in your mind to help you stay motivated when you make sacrifices.
8. Take on extra work (play) for a short time
If you need extra money to help you realize your dream (for example if you wanted to pay off debt or take a special vacation), then you might want to consider taking on some extra work (play) for a short period of time. We like to call work (play) because if you are providing a service in exchange for some monetary compensation, it should be FUN! Obviously it is important to look after your health and not burn out, however sometimes to achieve what we want in life taking on MORE and being sure you bring fun and play to doing those new activities, all types of new things can show up to support you along the way. Work out the details of what is practical and INSPIRING for you. It helps to have a goal and a timescale to work to that fits with you as an individual.
9. Be patient
Often, once we know what we want, it is hard to then be patient whilst circumstances align to make this possible. Speaking personally I can say that this is always the hardest part of the process for me. In this modern time of instant gratification it can be very hard to feel satisfied when you can’t see much happening. This is the law of reap and sow. I think that people better understood this universal principle when more of us were farmers, and we lived closer to nature. Then we would understand that when we plant seeds we won’t see a plant the very next day. Maybe a month of two down the line, or perhaps even next year! If you can apply this law to your life as you start to make changes to realize your dream, it will help keep you motivated when it looks like not much is happening.
Another helpful analogy can be to think of it like a big pot of water on the stove. When you first put it on to boil there is a lot of energy going in (the flame under the pot) and for a good while NOTHING appears to be happening to the water. However it is. The water is gradually heating up, and when it gets to a certain point, suddenly there will be bubbles and it will boil! If you continued heating it, eventually it would become steam. So with all that energy going in it still takes a while to show any results, however there ARE changes happening, under the surface. Apply this principle to your life to help you stay calm in times when nothing appears to be shifting (often at the beginning of a cycle of change, and often at times during that cycle too). And if you truly believe your dream is possible, you will be rewarded all along the way with little signs and what we like to call magic and miracles that remind you to stay focused, and continue PLAYING your BIG GAMES in life as they will manifest, just like the boiling water, right before your eyes.
10. Open your mind
So now that you are clear about your dream and on your path, it’s time to open your mind to the possibilities! We can miss so much by being closed. Stay open to receive all that this abundant universe has to offer.