What it means
Speaking your truth simply means bravely sharing with your partner how you truly feel. It’s being honest and open within your relationship, and staying true to yourself. It has to do with knowing yourself – what you value, what you need within a relationship, what you can contribute – and then sharing that. Often it is easier said than done. And when you don’t speak your truth you may find that you have lost yourself in the relationship. Distance can grow and intimacy can be blocked when partners do not feel able to share their truth.
It takes a lot of courage to speak your truth. Sometimes it is hard to even know what your truth is! You may find that you have lost touch with how you really feel inside, with your passions and your zest for life. You may not know how you feel about your relationship, so how can you express that to your partner? (Actually sometimes it is just fine to say you don’t know how you feel, and that IS your truth at that time). Honesty opens the way for intimacy.
Signs that you are NOT speaking your truth
Some signs that you are not in alignment with your truth may be that you feel irritable, aggravated and dissatisfied a lot of the time. You may feel angry at your partner and not know why, or perhaps you find yourself griping and picking fights over minor things.
When you are feeling terrible and angry and you are not sure what it is about, it’s a good idea to take a step back and go inside yourself. Is it really about something ‘they’ are doing? Or is it something inside of you? Often we can unconsciously take our own resentment and anger and channel it towards our partner by making it about them or something they are doing. We can create all kinds of drama this way. Often this is the easier option, rather than going inside to explore what is really going on.
How it feels when you are not speaking your truth
This reaction feels like a lot of resistance, drama, pushing and pulling, blaming and struggle. It is in the head / over thinking, and is based in fear.
Signs that you ARE speaking your truth
Often when you go inside and get in touch with your truth all the drama will just melt away. The issue you had with your partner will very often resolve itself, or, if you discover that there really is something that you need to discuss with them, you will be able to do so from a calm and non-judgmental place.
How it feels when you ARE speaking your truth
When you find your truth this will feel like a release of tension, it will feel calm, good and strong. This is based in the heart and has to do with feelings / intuition. It is based in love.
When You Speak Your Truth You Can Handle Anything!
Even if there is a difficult situation to deal with or a tricky conversation to be had, YOU will feel OK in yourself. Often you may find that there is no need to share your truth with your partner, just finding your own feelings is enough. However real, open and honest communication can do wonders for the intimacy and passion in your relationship.
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When everything operates from a ‘nice’ level we often miss the chance for real connection. However difficult and awkward speaking the truth is, once you do it is like opening a floodgate to intimacy. Your partner will respect you and real emotion can flow. It will also make them feel safe because they will feel that you are speaking your truth. This creates a safe environment and can inspire them to share too.
So, find and speak your truth today to ramp up the intimacy and passion in your relationship.